According To One Study, Couples Who Marry As Virgins Are More Likely To Have A Better Marriage
Listen — marriage is no cakewalk. A successful union of people takes a ton of hard work, compromise, and still has its fair share of struggles. There are a number of things that contribute to a happy marriage, and new research is revealing that the number of sexual partners a person has before they tie the knot is one of them.
A study conducted by Nicholas Wolfinger, sociologist at the University of Utah, found that Americans who have only ever slept with their spouse are more likely to report being in a “very happy” marriage. On the opposite spectrum, people with the lowest odds of marital happiness were found to be women who have had six to 10 sexual partners in their lives.
“Contrary to conventional wisdom, when it comes to sex, less experience is better, at least for the marriage,” said W. Bradford Wilcox, sociologist and senior fellow at the Institute for Family Studies. In an earlier study, Wolflinger found that women with zero or one previous sexual partners before marriage were also least likely to divorce, while those with 10 or more were most likely.
However, the number of new brides who were virgins when they got married is a small one. By the 2010s, Wolflinger revealed that only 5% of new brides were virgins. A startlingly low 6% of these marriages ended within the first five years, compared with a 20% divorce rate of newlyweds who were not virgins when they got married.
For Wolflinger, the low divorce rate for people who were virgins when they got married doesn’t necessarily have to do with being religious. He explains that people who avoid having sex before marriage may simply value marriage as a whole more highly, and so they feel more satisfied by it. However, marrying as a virgin doesn’t guarantee that you’ll have a happy marriage, and marrying with 60 sexual partners under your belt (literally) doesn’t mean you’re bound to get a divorce. Marriage is a complicated union that requires lots of love, support, and understanding — regardless of the number of sexual partners you have.